“What I Used To Say Was Going To Be My Wedding Gift Is No Longer Possible”.

“It’s been a year and four days since the dreadful day that I went against everything I believed in. I sinned against God, against myself and against my family. You see, I was brought up in a very strict Christian environment and I knew premarital sex was wrong which made what I did 1000 times worse because I sinned knowingly.

Losing my virginity has caused many problems in my life. For the longest time I cried myself to sleep, I felt dirty and ashamed of myself. A few days ago I finally mustered up enough courage to go and get tested for STD’s. I’m still waiting for the results.

I know God has forgiven me, I’m sure he did the very first time I asked for forgiveness. But I’m having a very hard time forgiving myself. You see I was 21 at the time that I lost my virginity. And all the 21 years of my life I planned on waiting for marriage. But “worldly” feelings got the best of me, lust controlled me, and I lost all sight of what my morals, beliefs, standards were.

I cannot erase my past; I cannot go back in time and redo it. The only thing left to do is to learn from my mistake, and start over again. It just kills me that what I used to say was going to be my wedding gift for my husband on the night of our wedding, is no longer possible.

Please people think long and hard before you do something that will have an affect on the rest of your life. This is not something that you get over easily.

Have the strength to listen to God, listen to your heart and say “NO.”

My Admonition.
Sex as God ordained it is for two consenting adults of the opposite sex in holy marriage. This may not please the system of the world, which is dredged in sexual perversion, but it is the bitter truth. Even if you are an adult and not married, sex is not for you. Sex has been abused all around the world, which is why instead of it being a blessing; it has become a curse to the errant. Sexual abuse is one of the largest major cause of diseases in the world.

The Holy Bible which is God’s manual on marriage stated in Genesis 2:24, “therefore shall a man …” It didn’t say “therefore shall a boy… cleave unto his girl”. Therefore, a man and his wife are entitled to sex only after they have left their parents to be committed to each other. It is not a cohabiting relationship. May we have a willing hearts and grace to obey in Jesus name, amen.

The result of sex comes with it attending challenges, commitment and responsibility which can only be provided for in marriage such as taking care of your spouse, children, pregnancy, relating with in-laws, accommodation, etc. But it’s unfortunate that some people want sex but don’t want the responsibility that comes with it, this is greed. In fact some people have turned their partner into sex toys; they have sex at their own will without considering the consequences it will have on their partner.

Before anybody have sex with you, please you and the person should get the license (marriage), which is the proof of commitment, and platform on which you can report the person to God if he/she wants to err. God wants you to use your single hood to serve Him with full commitment, Ecclesiastes 12:1. Discover your purpose, and then get married to someone who can be of help to accomplish it with you.

“Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled”- Hebrew 13:4

“But flee youthful lusts, and follow after righteousness, faith, love, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart”., 2 Timothy 2:22

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