1. Build your spiritual life:
Marriage is spiritual, you too must be spiritual to navigate it successfully by giving your life to Jesus Christ.
God strengthens you to exhibit love, tolerance, patience, kindness, humility and other good attitudes toward your spouse in good and challenging times. You need the divine enablement to enjoy marriage.
2. Fill Your Love Tank:
Marriage is all about love. But firstly learn to love and accept yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love your spouse well.
Check out the following love indices in you:
•How does he/she loves God?
•How does he/she loves him/herself.
•How does he/she loves and relate with his/her parents, siblings, relatives, etc.
•How does he/she manage his/her temperament and emotional/self control.
•How does he measure on giving, sacrifice, forgiveness, sexual chastity and other virtues.
The truth is———You can predict how he/she will relate with you on marriage from all these. Always pray to God to help you show love always.If he beats his mother, he might beat you too
3. Source(s) of income:
It’s wickedness not to have source(s) of Income to take care of your spouse and family in marriage.
One of the first things God gave Adam before Eve was work and source of meeting his needs- the Garden of Eden. Marriage is about responsibility and meeting needs. Poverty can frustrate married couples and can lead to a disharmony.
Not providing for your family makes you worse than an infidel and deny the faith 1 Timothy 5: 8. Get a job, learn a skills/business , develop and utilize your talents, volunteer, go for internship or apprenticeship, etc so you can be financially free and take good care of your family. Marriage is not for someone who lacks resources for providing for his family. Go settle that first.
4. Improve on your character:
Your character is your marriage. There is neither good nor bad marriage but what we have is good or bad humans because your marriage is who you are. Your marriage is good because you are good, it is bad because you are bad. Character is life.
Let me honestly tell you that marriage will test or challenge your character to know what stuff you are made off. Love, submission, sacrifice, humility, forgiveness, brokenness, tolerance, patience, etc are the virtues you must develop while single because you’ll need them when you marry.
2 Peter 1: 5-8 tells you of characters that should be part of your lives because at the long run they’ll make your marriage blissful.
“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge;
6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
7 And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.
8 For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
5. Build friendship: Are you friends? Lots of people are married to strangers. Someone you don’t know. Someone they packaged or arranged for you.
Whosoever the person is build friendship first. It is the foundation for blissful marriage. This help you know each other and bond. Read Books: Successful Marriages are built on knowledge not feelings.
The Bible recommend husbands living with their wives with knowledge. 1 Peter 3: 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
What God is telling you here is that you should read books. Marriage can’t be run on assumptions or presumption or head knowledge. Ask those who are successful in marriage, they’ll tell you knowledge is part of it. IF YOU KNOW BETTER; YOU WILL DO BETTER.
6. Talk all the Talkables:
Have am open discussion on all areas of your life. There should be no skeleton in the cupboard less it resurrect in marriage which will be more disastrous. Talk on money, health, past, present, future, career, family, other relationships, spiritual life, where you want to live, in-laws, etc.
7. Improve on Effective Communication Skills:
Communication is the life of marriage. Love is express in communication. Are you free in communicating with each other? Know the What, Who, When, Where, Which and How of what to communicate. Also know actions, reactions, response, ambience and gesture of communication in marriage.
8. Don’t joke with prayer:
The issue is satan hates marriage and he’s fighting it hard this end time as seen in rising disharmony in homes and promotion of same sex relationship. Build the foundation for your marriage while you are single. It fortifies your marriage against satanic influences. Go watch the movie: WAR ROOM for more on the power of prayers in blissful marriage.
I believe you’ve learn great lessons. I wish you success in you preparation for marriage this year in Jesus name
© ABIODUN AREMO
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