A godly pathway to choosing a life partner…
Many people often ask on how do I choose a life partner? It baffles me how some tongue talking and spirit filled Christian find it difficult when it comes to choosing a life partner. In no order, let’s look at Genesis 24, the story of how Isaac got his wife via his father’s servant Eliazer.
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1. PARENTAL CONCERN..
In verse 3, Abraham became concern about his son’s marital life. Isaac was already 40 yet he isn’t talking about marriage yet.. There is a point in our lives where our parents, guardians, pastors, are genuinely interested in us getting married. Many of us are so focused in life that we forget about our marital journey. Some of us so much interested in glamorous weddings while ignoring the actual fact about marriage. At this point, they bring to our remembrance what we might have be forgetting. Some of our parents tries to correct some of our misconceptions about marriage.
Note: There is a difference between feeling concern and being pressured.
If we have godly parents, their counsel shouldn’t be undermine so long as its rooted in God’s word.
Let’s carry our parents along in our marital journey, they have important role to play. Seek their counsel.
2. MARRY FROM YOUR PEOPLE..
In verse 4, Abraham specifically told his servants to go to his own people to choose the wife.
GET IT: Our own people are believers. You can’t marry and unbeliever it is against God’s word. In as much as we want to marry a believer, we should also check the compatibility of our beliefs. Our doctrines shouldn’t be on opposite direction, it will affect our spiritual life as there will be no agreement to some extent.
Since you can’t marry an unbeliever, it will be wrong to date an unbeliever with the hope of converting them. YOU can’t do the work of the Holy Spirit, You can only tell people about the love of God and allow the Holy Spirit to do the conviction.
Also, When the motive of converting someone is for personal gains, that is selfishness. Jesus commissioned us to bring back the lost sheep to him not to ourselves.
Many are regretting their actions, those they taught they converted for marriage sake, letter take them from the faith after marriage because, they have been pretending all along.
Abraham demonstrated faith once more. When the servants ask him, what if the lady refused to follow, should I take your son back to her in your home country?
…saying, ‘To your offspring I will give this land’—he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there. Abraham believed that, God will not deny him his request. Abraham faith encouraged Elaizer to call on God before choosing the wife.
Genesis 24:12 And he said, O LORD God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham.
Marriage is a faith Journey, as such, believing in what God can give to you is very vital. Prayer must go along with believing. Many pray with doubt thereby making wrong choices. Forget about the heretic teaching that you don’t need God in making marital teaching. There are so many wolves in sheep clothing our there, you can’t unveil their true identity with mere knowledge.
Satan has transformed into an angel of light, How can you discern light from light without the help of the Holy Spirit?
BEING CLOSE TO GOD AND TOTAL OBEDIENCE TO HIM, IS THE SUREST WAY TO MARRY RIGHT .
4. A CHOICE :
The Servant asked Abraham, what if the woman refused to follow me?
In verse 8, Abraham said, then you are free from the oath because it is no longer the servants fault. In verse Genesis 24:58 And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go.
GET: In as much as we allow God to lead us, the final choice depends on us. He is a loving father who will not force things on us. He will allow us to either accept or not. But which ever choice we make, the responsibility is solely on our shoulder.
Therefore, your marital decision shouldn’t not be based on what someone said or not. It shouldn’t be based on the prophecy of your G. O or whosoever. You shouldn’t be forced to marry someone because of church doctrines and other conditions.
If GOD WON’T FORCE HIS WILL ON YOU, THEN WHY SHOULD YOU BE FORCED MY HUMAN?
The conviction or confirmation to choose or accept a Marriage partner is solely on you. It is your marriage! 👌
5. PRIORTIZE CHARACTER
The servant prayed with understanding.. He didn’t put beauty first but character. He needed a wife who is accommodating because his master is a great leader, as such he needs a suitable help meet.
Genesis 24:14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
GET IT… Because you believe God doesn’t mean you should neglect the red flags. You must know his/her character . Know how they relate with their families. Rebekah has a good relationship with her family and the servant saw it the time he spent with them.
Wisdom and understanding is require in our marital pursuit.. Let no one deceive you!
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